It’s Not You It’s Me. Dealing with challenging relationships in your life that involve ….. YOU! Free Zoom Webinar, 4 Oct

It’s Not You It’s Me.

Dealing with challenging relationships in your life that involve ….. YOU!

Free Zoom Webinar – Tuesday, 4 October 7–8.30pm

Have you ever noticed that throughout your life that no matter what you do to try and avoid it, you always find yourself in embroiled in relationships that have you in them?

For the one common feature in all the relationships that have given you trouble and strife, difficulty, pain, grief and hurt is ………….. you!

Why therefore didn’t you follow Groucho Marx’s advice when he (nearly) said:  “I wouldn’t be involved in any kind of relationship that had me in it.”

But hey it’s not all bad news because all the relationships that you have been in that have had joy, warmth, love, compassion, friendship, humanity, companionship, support and mutuality have also involved you!

How weird!

Now I know it’s easy to say that all the relationships that didn’t go particularly well for you from parents, to family, to teachers, to peers, to work, to partners, to children to neighbours, community and even the God you believe in or the one you don’t were always clearly the fault of the of the other party.  And that you were clearly the victim because they had the temerity to see things differently to you and that automatically makes them wrong because they’re not you and you are!

Conversely, in all the relationships that were and are successful and sustainable that was largely if not entirely due to your generosity of spirit and relentless and often completely unrecognised and totally taken for granted giving, giving, giving.

In conflict it is easy yet generally only entrenches fixed positions and opposing views and behaviours to focus on what it wrong with the other party and how they caused the conflict and what they need to do to change to fix things.

In this Webinar we will be taking a different approach by looking at specific strategies and techniques to help you (by adapting the Gandhi principle) be the change you want to see in the relationship.

A negative refusal to change is likely to met with some of Newton’s second law of motion i.e. for each and every action there is an equal and opposite reaction! (If only Newton applied some of his theory to his own relationships things might have worked out a bit better for him because he sure was a confrontational and difficult cuss!)

A positive offer of change to improve things however is far more likely to be reciprocated especially if volunteered rather than demanded.

Hopefully there will be some simple and practical “first moves” within the Webinar we can all try and apply to help lessen stress and aggravation and make things better when the going gets tough and the tough need to get going!

This Webinar forms part of a series on Sustainable Relationships and Resolving Conflict but it is not necessary to have attended any previous Webinars as they are designed as stand-alone events.

Facilitator: Tony Kearney

Tony grew up in New Zealand where he trained as a solicitor. He then worked as a solicitor in London for over 20 years before moving to Ireland in 2006 to further his work around building sustainable relations into the future. This includes planting a forest on the farm where he now lives and acting as a Mediator in workplace, community, schools, family, and commercial disputes. Tony is also a skilled facilitator and trainer and runs many training and other events and is the author of five books.

To register for this webinar or find out more email Tony at: tony.kearney6@gmail.com